Wife’s c-section was weeping a little so they removed a few staples and opened the wound up so it could be packed and heal from the inside out. not all that uncommon, but it does mean she now has a very large open wound i have have to pack twice a day. I don’t know if you’ve ever packed an actual wound before. This is not a bandaid situation. like…you put in a lot of gauze….awfully deep. inch deep. and you gotta pull it all out each time too. its kinda surreal. its been a surreal month, really.

I’ll spare you guys the pictures.

On a lighter note, she’s finally home! one step closer to getting back to a relatively normal existence

Things to say to people who are needlessly aggressive upon first contact with them

"Did Bethesda write your dialog?"

storiesfromthefront:

hcsvntdracones-game:

Hey folks! Its been a ride, both in the KS campaign and out in the wide wide world, but we’re coming in to the last seven days! Now is the time to stretch out and let folks on the fence know they’re time is running out. If you want a printed copy of the core book, the Kickstarter is the only way to get one for a good long time. This unique version is the birth of a franchise that, with your support, has tremendous potential for growth. So come in, look around, and join the fun!
https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1448273438/hc-svnt-dracones

Down to the end of this line! Lots of things going on in my life at one time right now, heh. Please spread!

storiesfromthefront:

hcsvntdracones-game:

Hey folks! Its been a ride, both in the KS campaign and out in the wide wide world, but we’re coming in to the last seven days! Now is the time to stretch out and let folks on the fence know they’re time is running out. If you want a printed copy of the core book, the Kickstarter is the only way to get one for a good long time. This unique version is the birth of a franchise that, with your support, has tremendous potential for growth. So come in, look around, and join the fun!

https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1448273438/hc-svnt-dracones

Down to the end of this line! Lots of things going on in my life at one time right now, heh. Please spread!

This just in: baby is Librarian Dreadnaught

This just in: baby is Librarian Dreadnaught

updates

Thank you all for your support.  Ive received many messages of hope and some generous donations that will certainly help with the expenses to come, and its been really nice to pop on tumblr when I can and see people expressing compliments and concerns for us. All very positive. Granted, I turned off anon messages ages ago, so that may have something to do with it, but Ill just go one believing I’m watched by good folk and leave it at that XD.

We are recovering as best we can. Wife had a blood transfusion today to deal with anemia and low platelet count associated with the HELLP syndrome that the preeclampsia eventually turned into. I know, odd acronym, but that’s what its called, and why we had to deliver. Shes feeling much better, but its going to be a few more days before she can leave, assuming things continue to improve.

Baby is “doing all the things we expect someone born this early to do”, which  is the best I can really get out of any of the hospital staff. I think its code for “shes doing well but could end up not doing well at any point”. I feel bad for them really, hospitals have been sued into the dirt so many times that no one is allowed to commit to anything anymore. its extremely difficult to get predictions or summaries or even opinions until something direct has to be immediately done. But shes breathing and alive and being taken care of, so for the moment that’s as good as I can hope for.

The birth documentation has 37 listed complications associated with the baby. Each one will have to be taken in time as she grows, so its really hard to feel as excited as I’d like to. I see a lot of “congratulations!” and I cant help but feel my heart sink a little with each one. Her chances really are pretty good, but there are a lot of hurdles between here and there.

I got the call on 1.5 hours of sleep. I’d pulled a late night because, as far as I knew, we were stable. That’s the nature of this condition though, it turns really quick. When surgery was over i followed them out with the baby while they went through the process of stitching everything up, and they put her into the incubator and i sort of fell in a zombie state for a little while. they explained some things, told me where my wife was headed, and if she hadn’t gotten to Recovery yet I was just supposed to find a room and wait for someone to get me. So i went back to the room she’d been in before the c-section and it was all up-ended, being cleaned out and such. one of the cleaning staff had found the shower scrubbing brush I’d brought for her earlier and handed it back to me, and i took it and sort of stood out in the hallway for a little bit. and someone told me I couldn’t stand in the middle of the hall because they might need to move a patient through quickly, so i kinda drifted toward a more public area, clutching this shower scrubbing brush thing like it was something important. and i came across a bathroom and locked myself in it and sobbed for a few minutes, because the damned shower brush is bigger than she is. I’ve never seen any living thing that looked so fragile. my hand is larger.

I felt a little better afterward, and i was able to find my way back to the recovery area and my wife had arrived and over the next few hours I was able to refocus a little. snagged a little nap with her once we were moved to the mom&baby wing. called my folks, all that stuff. Went back in to see the baby, was able to actually talk to the staff a little, it was all much more manageable the second time around. And the next day after i’d finally gotten some sleep, and I think it will keep getting more and more manageable. But I can tell already shes going to scare me like that the rest of my life. Hopefully, she’ll get that chance.

My wife still has the shower scrub brush, I’d planned on throwing it away when she left the hospital because its getting kinda old. I think im going to save it instead, put it in a box or something. Seems kinda special now.

Baby Cora born today

1 pound 16 ounces. 27 weeks.

That last post was written via the tumblr app in a car, so it was a little brief. I can elaborate a little now that we have more information.
My wife has been diagnosed with Preeclampsia. Its a pregnancy complication that sharply raises blood-pressure and can effect the health of the mother’s liver and kidneys. It is fatal if untreated. There is only one cure for preeclampsia: stop being pregnant.  Her pregnancy will be ending in the next few days to few weeks, depending on how lucky we are. Its not an if, its a when.
As of tomorrow, she will be 27 weeks in. That’s about three months premature.
Right now the highest priority is to keep the symptoms under control as long as physically possible, because every day in the womb is worth 4 in an incubator, and gives the baby a much higher survival chance once she’s been removed. My wife isn’t in any major danger; shes being monitored constantly and will be hospitalized until delivery, so as soon as things start getting out of control, that’s when delivery going to happen. C-section is pretty much guaranteed at this point; there’s just no time to induce natural labor once the symptoms start to accelerate, and the baby is currently head-up. Premature babies past the 25 week mark have decent survival rates, but every extra day we can get will help.
Shes been given steroids to help develop baby’s lungs faster. That’s the big problem right now. low weight, small size, inability to eat or control her body warmth, that’s all stuff that can be assisted mechanically, but if her lungs don’t work, that’s the end of it. I don’t really want to contemplate that at the moment, but its a reality that’s on the table.
Bottom line right now, best case scenario: we’ll get another week of manageable symptoms, the baby will be delivered and spend at least the next 3 months in an incubator, at which point it will be safe to bring her home, but she’ll still be at “minimum term” in regards to her overall growth.
Emotional states aside, we’re going to be running into a bit of a financial bind before too long. We were all set to coordinate pregnancy leaves and family leaves with the arrival of baby about three months from now. her arrival now means i have to stop teaching an entire quarter early so i can be around to help my wife recover and travel back and forth to the hospital to see the baby and help there too.
Additionally, pregnancy leave begins as soon as the baby is born and cant be postponed. Since the baby is being born premature, we wont actually have her at her normal, “new baby” size back at home until at least three months after shes actually entered the world. Meaning my wife’s leave is going to end right when we really need it to start. There are additional disability services to call on, but it still knocks a good three months off the overall timetable, which will probably take me off work for another quarter (the one I’d planned on taking off to begin with to be with the baby). We don’t know what the hospital bill is going to look like yet. our insurance is pretty solid, but this is a very, very long stay.
So things are a little nuts right now, on the whole.
Your well-wishes are appreciated, and if you’d like to toss a few bucks our way for general aid, I’m sure we’re going to need the help once the backlog catches up. If you’re interested, my paypal is sev.jano@gmail.com . I’m spending a lot of time sitting in a hospital room these days, so my at-home work time is being dedicated to making sure my game project gets as strong a launch as possible. We’re kinda counting on it to help offset some of the income we’re going to be losing at this point.
I will post updates when things move forward. thanks for reading.

That last post was written via the tumblr app in a car, so it was a little brief. I can elaborate a little now that we have more information.

My wife has been diagnosed with Preeclampsia. Its a pregnancy complication that sharply raises blood-pressure and can effect the health of the mother’s liver and kidneys. It is fatal if untreated. There is only one cure for preeclampsia: stop being pregnant.  Her pregnancy will be ending in the next few days to few weeks, depending on how lucky we are. Its not an if, its a when.

As of tomorrow, she will be 27 weeks in. That’s about three months premature.

Right now the highest priority is to keep the symptoms under control as long as physically possible, because every day in the womb is worth 4 in an incubator, and gives the baby a much higher survival chance once she’s been removed. My wife isn’t in any major danger; shes being monitored constantly and will be hospitalized until delivery, so as soon as things start getting out of control, that’s when delivery going to happen. C-section is pretty much guaranteed at this point; there’s just no time to induce natural labor once the symptoms start to accelerate, and the baby is currently head-up. Premature babies past the 25 week mark have decent survival rates, but every extra day we can get will help.

Shes been given steroids to help develop baby’s lungs faster. That’s the big problem right now. low weight, small size, inability to eat or control her body warmth, that’s all stuff that can be assisted mechanically, but if her lungs don’t work, that’s the end of it. I don’t really want to contemplate that at the moment, but its a reality that’s on the table.

Bottom line right now, best case scenario: we’ll get another week of manageable symptoms, the baby will be delivered and spend at least the next 3 months in an incubator, at which point it will be safe to bring her home, but she’ll still be at “minimum term” in regards to her overall growth.

Emotional states aside, we’re going to be running into a bit of a financial bind before too long. We were all set to coordinate pregnancy leaves and family leaves with the arrival of baby about three months from now. her arrival now means i have to stop teaching an entire quarter early so i can be around to help my wife recover and travel back and forth to the hospital to see the baby and help there too.

Additionally, pregnancy leave begins as soon as the baby is born and cant be postponed. Since the baby is being born premature, we wont actually have her at her normal, “new baby” size back at home until at least three months after shes actually entered the world. Meaning my wife’s leave is going to end right when we really need it to start. There are additional disability services to call on, but it still knocks a good three months off the overall timetable, which will probably take me off work for another quarter (the one I’d planned on taking off to begin with to be with the baby). We don’t know what the hospital bill is going to look like yet. our insurance is pretty solid, but this is a very, very long stay.

So things are a little nuts right now, on the whole.

Your well-wishes are appreciated, and if you’d like to toss a few bucks our way for general aid, I’m sure we’re going to need the help once the backlog catches up. If you’re interested, my paypal is sev.jano@gmail.com . I’m spending a lot of time sitting in a hospital room these days, so my at-home work time is being dedicated to making sure my game project gets as strong a launch as possible. We’re kinda counting on it to help offset some of the income we’re going to be losing at this point.

I will post updates when things move forward. thanks for reading.

Wife has Preeclampsia. Baby will be arriving very, very early. I might be gone a while. Hsd project is still on, all other Projects on indefinite hold.

Totally inconspicuous, but have you ever drawn up a solid reference pic for Storm Front?

Nope!